Thursday, March 10, 2011

The Shoes

So, you realize this post isn't about "shoes". But, it is about infertility and loss. They both hurt. They both turn your world upside down. You look at life different.

I think it's hard to understand infertility or miscarriage without going through it. Obviously, the writing below was written by someone who experienced it. If you come across this and you wrote this or know who did, please get in touch with me. I posted this on my old blog when I had a session with a beautiful Mama who suffered a loss and then went on to have 2 adorable children (twins!). That was an emotional session for me. I knew the feelings she had felt, I could relate and I was overjoyed to be able to share in her joy of finally receiving her blessings.

If you are out there and suffering from either of these things (infertility or loss) and need someone to just be that ear. I will be it. I know how valuable that ear can be when you are going through such pain.

I am wearing a pair of shoes. They are ugly shoes. Uncomfortable Shoes. I hate my shoes. Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair. Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step. Yet, I continue to wear them. I get funny looks wearing these shoes. They are looks of sympathy. I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs. They never talk about my shoes. To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable. To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them. But, once you put them on, you can never take them off. I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes. There are many pairs in the world. Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them. Some have learned how to walk in them so they don't hurt quite as much. Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think of how much they hurt. No woman deserves to wear these shoes. Yet, because of the shoes I am a stronger woman. These shoes have given me the strength to face anything. They have made me who I am. I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child. -Author Unknown


  1. I've read that before too, maybe it was on your blog, who knows?? Those twins love to look at those pictures and have us point out baby C and baby L everynight on the way to bed!!

  2. Thanks, Krisy! :) Yeah, I did post this before on the old blog. Is that cheating to repeat a post over here? ;0
    Your header will be coming soon!